Finding Calm in the Commotion: Involving Your Child in Holiday Rhythms

As the holiday season approaches, our calendars often fill up quickly, and the familiar pace of our daily lives begins to shift. At LakeCreek Montessori School, we often notice how children feel more grounded, cooperative, and calm when they have a meaningful role to play in their environment. In the classroom, "practical life" activities—from washing dishes to sweeping the floor—offer children a profound sense of purpose. When they contribute to the life of their community, they feel capable and valued.
This same principle can be beautifully applied at home during the holidays. Whenever possible, finding small (and sometimes big) ways for your child to help with holiday preparations can transform a hectic season into a shared, grounding experience.
Active participation not only helps children develop important coordination and executive function skills, but it also helps them adapt to changes in their usual routines by giving them a sense of agency.
Here are a few ways to gently weave Montessori principles into your holiday preparations, creating a calm and joyful atmosphere for your family.
Holiday Decorating
If your family enjoys decorating, consider creating a child-sized decoration station. This could be a small, low table or a tiny tree placed at your child’s height.
- For younger children: Offer a small basket with a few sturdy, unbreakable ornaments. They will love the repetitive task of hanging, arranging, and rearranging them on their own tree or accessible lower branches.
- For older children: Invite them to take on the responsibility of arranging candle holders, placing natural greenery, or setting out festive items in the living spaces. Giving them a genuine hand in preparing your home fosters a deep sense of belonging and pride.
Gift Wrapping
Preparing gifts for loved ones is a wonderful opportunity to slow down and practice fine motor skills. Set up a simple wrapping station on a low table or on the floor, using materials that match your child’s abilities.
- For Toddlers: Fabric gift bags with simple drawstrings or reusable boxes with removable lids are perfect. Placing an item inside and securing it offers a satisfying, independent experience. They might also enjoy decorating butcher paper or kraft paper with colorful crayons or stamps to make hand-designed wrapping paper—always a family favorite!
- For Primary and Elementary children: An older child can help with taping, cutting paper with child-safe scissors, or adding ribbon. You might offer step-by-step guidance on how to measure the paper, fold the corners, and place tape securely.
Baking and Cooking
Preparing holiday meals and treats is a rich experience with sensory and practical life opportunities. It is a natural way for children to practice measuring, pouring, and following a sequence.
- To keep this stress-free, try pre-measuring ingredients into small pinch bowls so your child can independently pour them into the mixing bowl.
- Simple tasks like kneading dough, using cookie cutters, stirring batter, or spreading toppings are deeply engaging. Providing child-sized tools—like a small spatula, whisk, or rolling pin—makes these tasks far more manageable for tiny hands.
- Accept that the process might be messy and take a bit longer. By focusing on the doing rather than the perfect final product, you preserve the joy of collaboration.
Setting the Holiday Table
Table setting is a cornerstone of the Montessori classroom, and children are often eager to bring this skill home. Involving your child in preparing the holiday table is a wonderful way to reinforce counting, spatial awareness, and one-to-one correspondence.
- Collecting Natural Decor: Take a "collecting walk" around your neighborhood or backyard to gather pinecones, fallen leaves, or small branches. Your child can arrange these in a small bowl or across the center of the table.
- Step-by-Step Table Setting: For younger children, show them how to carry one item at a time (e.g., making multiple trips to bring one fork, then the next). Placing a tray of utensils on a nearby chair can help them distribute them independently. Older children may enjoy folding napkins, placing glassware, or creating handmade name cards for guests.
Gift-Giving and Helping Others
True generosity is learned through experience, and we can support our children’s social development by involving them in acts of giving.
- Handmade Gifts: Help your child create simple, thoughtful gifts for family or neighbors. Depending on their age, this might look like handmade cards, watercolor paintings, beaded jewelry, or clay ornaments.
- Acts of Service: Involve children in decisions about charitable giving. They can help select toys, pack non-perishable foods for a local pantry, or help prepare care packages. Discussing who these items are for helps cultivate empathy and gratitude.
A Note on Keeping It Simple, Predictable, and Calm
Children are highly sensitive to their environments and to changes in their daily rhythms. During a busy season, the most valuable "activity" we can offer is a peaceful routine.
You do not need to do every activity on this list. Choose one or two that feel natural for your family, and prioritize keeping life simple. Try to maintain consistent bedtimes, preserve quiet afternoons, and leave plenty of time for unstructured play.
By inviting our children to work alongside us, we show them that they are an essential part of the family’s holiday rhythm. They don't just watch the season happen—they help create it.
If you’d like to see how we encourage independence, concentration, and collaboration in our classrooms everyday, we’d love to welcome you.
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